TW: a few mentions of s3xu3l harassment, p3d0philia, and some inappropriate questions often asked, a few mentions of gr00ming, and a few mentions of s3xu4lization
This topic will discuss about being pressured, relationship issues, being pressured to be in relationships, wanting to grow up, and how modesty is getting looked down upon.
If this topic isn’t for you, then you can just click off.
Now with that out of the way, let’s get into it.
We’ve always wanted to try and be like adults, maybe you’ve drank water from a wine glass before when you were small and thought it was cool. Even as teens, we still would wanna be like them. However, it gets bad if things are taken too far.
As we’re in our teens, we think that we can do pretty much about anything we want and that we are mature enough for it but the problem is that our minds are still developing, and we don’t think critically properly still, we may think these things are okay for us and then we end up regretting it as we get older.
And as with nowadays, even those who haven’t reached their teens yet, are being pressured to act more mature, instead of their age.
I've talked about this previously in another topic, if you haven't seen it you can go check that out here
Now, back to what i was talking about.
So, this is the reason why there is more teens who think they’re mature enough for these type of stuff now.
But at the same time, they’re secretly scared, scared that they will make the wrong choice, so they try going into a group in order to fit in.
Like a herd of sheep.
And once in, they’re afraid if they leave that, they will make the wrong choices.
And that’s why they stay, they continue to follow it without knowing the true consequences.
And since they’re used to getting pressured on, they will not question you for saying why they’re like this instead of this or whatnot, instead they will try their hardest just to please you. So that this pressure would be released, but it doesn’t get off easily like that.
Such as getting into relationships, and now it’s especially being pressured into kids.
In my experience, in 2017-2018, 12-11 year olds would want to date, it didn’t matter if they didn’t know the person or that they didn’t even had feelings, they just wanna know what those feelings would be like.
But of course, it didn’t last forever, and it was online.
Back then these kids were doing it by choice, and it was typically not bad, sure some exes were sort of bullies but not in the way how they act now.
The way how they act now, is kinda disgusting.
Boys nowadays would ask girls if it’s an “outie or an innie” or if it’s pink or brown.
Now, that is obviously an inappropriate question, especially for a 11 year old to be asking that.
Yet, that’s the world we live in today.
And on top of that, there is harassment, they don’t have to not be in a relationship to harass you.
It can also happen in relationships.
It doesn’t matter if it’s online or not, it can still be harassment.
They will often make out in the school bathrooms, do the deed, etc.
And nobody is doing anything about this, the parents aren’t even wary of this.
And the thing is, these girls are often forced to do these things nowadays. When i was 10, i was drawing Freddy Fazbear as a human girl.
The 10 year olds nowadays are doing the deed, showing off their bodies, having an 0nlyf3ns account, smoking w33d, and so on.
Their boyfriends would touch them and they wouldn’t like that, but they have to endure this for the sake of keeping peace in the relationship.
And on top of that, teachers are trying to teach these kids sexuality and gender, these teachers do not deserve a right to teach them those things, that is something the parents should have a talk with their own kids.
I will dive into this more in another topic.
Young girls, such as 10, are being told to show themselves, and of course they do it. Why? Because they think this is how relationships works, it doesn’t matter if they aren’t comfortable, they think it’s the right thing to do because of what they were told by other kids in this case.
I’m not saying kids go up to them and say “showing yourself is normal just do it.”
It’s actually how other kids do the same thing, and how they talk about this so casually, which makes them think this is normalized.
And of course, this type of thing shouldn’t be normalized, ever.
And now, onto the teenagers.
Nowadays, there is girls who would date men that are older than them, waaaay older.
Such as 15-25.
Or maybe 17-29.
And these men often take advantage of these girls, but they don’t see that, especially because they think they’re mature enough.
And, they don’t even have to date adults in order to be groomed by these men.
There is often a lot of teens now being friends with them, they think this sort of stuff is fine.
But it actually isn’t.
What makes this sort of thing bad? Aren’t they mature?
No, they’re not mature, especially for the topics these adults bring up.
And it’s possible for these adults to have perverted thoughts about you, regardless of gender, regardless where they came from, it does not matter if they’re your friend or not, they still can have that and groom you.
These adults can often manipulate you without you knowing at all.
Here’s one thing that i actually learned about. If any adult says that you “act more mature than your age”, run.
If they say that, they make you think you’re responsible enough to make your own choices.
And that way, they can easily manipulate you.
This is what often lures teens in, and it’s pretty subtle too.
These poor girls often do not know about this and get trapped just like that.
And a lot of teen girls do not think much about this either, well, who would? Nobody would’ve guessed that it was manipulation from the start.
and now, onto another topic, girls wearing revealing clothes
We are seeing an increase of young girls wearing less and less clothing, and they’re being appreciated for that.
People often call it “empowering”, “brave”, or “feminism”.
But it really isn’t any of those things.
We also seen in media, how 12 year olds can be called “sexy” and “beautiful” for showing off their skin.
And this is absolutely wrong in so many ways, you can be beautiful by being modest. And calling yourself “sexy” at 12? You’re a kid, you don’t have to worry about being sexy or not. That should be none of your worries and you should live how you want and not what others want.
An example of this can be a show like Euphoria, sure some kids may not had good childhoods, but there is not many who would have such a childhood like Euphoria. I know there is some who do, but still. That’s a minority, and it’s starting to become a majority.
Young kids are even taking inspiration from it, thinking that’s the way teens should live. This is not something we should be inspired from, the show isn’t even for teens to begin with.
It’s an adult show, i don’t care if you say you’re “mature enough” for it, it’s still an adult show and you’re young.
A lot of kids are already being pressured to wear less clothes, and they shouldn’t be pressured for that but they are.
And you would even see comments from grown men commenting on a young teenage girl’s post saying that they should wear less.
If these things are ever happening to you, it’s about time to make your profile private and just only for your friends to see, not adult friends, just friends around your age.
Because nowadays, girls are selling their bodies, young girls. Going on 0nlyf4ns and and even on twitter, there is a certain hashtag for these girls and these adults to see. It’s becoming more alarmingly accessible to these men.
And the way they would tell their age, would be by putting it in their location and it would look like this:
“!!!6!!!!!!!!”
This is how they tell their age, that example says 16.
It’s disgusting, and the way how twitter didn’t get rid of it for so damn long just shows they don’t truly care. It has been there for years.
And onto another topic similar to wearing revealing clothes.
We all heard that Qatar hosted the World Cup, and of it’s rules, such as the ban on alcohol and things like that.
And one of those rules were that women wear more modest clothing, nobody was mad, except for the perverts.
Saying that we’re not allowing them to be free.
All of these people were grown men saying that, not women.
I do not think it’s such a bad thing to not wear so much revealing clothing, nobody said it was.
But they are.
Nothing is degrading about modesty, and if you show off your body that much of course you will get harassed. But people nowadays say that men should just never look at women at all and that women get to choose what they want to wear, and sure they shouldn’t look at them in that way. But the thing is, you also gotta do your own part by being modest, people say they feel confident when they wear these revealing clothes.
You can feel confident doing other things, and not just showing the private parts of your body to the world like that and then expect no consequences or any sort of sexualization, if you sexualize yourself, you’re obviously gonna get sexualized.
“My body, my choice”
'Aight, it is your choice but you can choose to protect yourself by covering up so you can avoid sexualization instead of complaining about it 24/7
not like I don’t like that but not all the time…